Being a Better Mom

I never really thought about this until JJ hit about 3.5-4yo. I always thought - I don't remember a thing from when I was that young, so why would he? Well, he is almost 5. And now I think - Dang, maybe he will remember some of this.

So, it has really got me thinking about our actions, how we deal with difficult circumstances, and just how we treat each kid. I am not saying by any means that we were bad about this before, but it makes you start to almost analyize every step, comment, and decision you make everyday. This, in itself, can be down right exhausting.

I read several blogs. I obtained possession of the family iPad about 3-4 weeks ago and got on the Reeder app and just started finding cool, Christian-based blogs that dealt with homemaking, food, and frugal living. There has been one that has been really thought provoking - sometimes a little eerie. Like she knows what I am dealing with at this moment of time so she talks about it. Weird.

Today, she touches on what type of legacy are you leaving? Again - something I have recently started thinking about, especially with JJ. How is he perceiving me? Am I a good mom to him? How can I make sure that my actions will benefit his future? These are, at times, scary thoughts, but something that seriously needs to be considered when raising children. Again - I have worked in the school system. I have seen kids that have had parents that spend little to no time with them, verbally abuse them, put high expectations on them - I know the effects these things can have. But, am I, even though I might not realize it, doing this to some extent? I think, JJ is 4 - he should be doing (blank). I do this A LOT. And I know you should to some point.

Anyway, a great blog. I will probably read it a few more times. She has a whole series right now on becoming a better mother. I know that I am a great mom, and I try to do all I can for my kids. Love them to pieces and they amaze me everyday. But, I am not perfect.

What do I want my kids to remember?

Is my attitude right?

Am I showing them love?

What is the big picture? Are my actions seeing the future?

If you have time - check out this blog, Delighting in the Days. Or just read this post - it might just inspire you too.